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Kimberly OakesLMFT

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Location

Virtual, New York

Insurance Accepted

UMR for Mount Sinai, Aetna, Cigna/Evernorth

Communication Style

Authentic, Energetic, Engaging, Open-minded, Warm

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Focus areas

ADHD, Anxiety, Burnout, Caregiver Burnout, Couples Therapy, Cultural Issues/Racial Stress, Depression, Family Conflict, Family Therapy, Grief, Life Transitions, Panic, Relationship Concerns, Sleep, Stress, Women's Issues, Workplace Stress

Experienced with

Parents, Blended families, Students

Years of Experience

9+

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My strength is working through complex problems with enthusiasm, patience, compassion, balance, and without being one-sided or biased.

License number

#001196

Therapy style

My therapeutic style could be characterized by open, curious, non-judgmental inquiry to foster safety and develop a positive and productive working alliance. I want you to know that I am on your side. I empower clients to find their voice; whether by setting and seeking goals or simply sharing and feeling heard and validated, I am here to help. For individual therapy, we of course first establish a positive working environment and build the alliance needed to proceed and then discover problem areas or mental health strains, following the trail of negative emotions, which informs us of your personal distress. Reducing this distress, is at the very least, our primary goal. Whether you suffer from anxiety or depression, or lifecycle-induced stressors, which may feel heightened recently or new altogether, we can track feelings and insights that need to be identified and processed, on our way to symptom relief. For couples therapy, we find the core of relational distress and big emotions that need to be felt, witnessed, validated, and sorted by both parties. My strength is working through complex problems with enthusiasm, patience, compassion, and balance, without being one-sided. This is a tall order for most, but I have experienced a great deal of success helping couples, by doing just that. We will work on communication (hearing what's really being said and meant), resentments, betrayal, trust, humility, safety, and how to better meet each other's needs.

Approaches

  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
  • Couples [The Gottman Method]
  • Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
  • Interpersonal Psychotherapy
  • Motivational Interviewing
  • Relational
  • Strengths-based

Languages Spoken

English

Education

BS - Cornell University, Johnson School of Business MA - The School of Marriage and Family Therapy, Syracuse University

Interests

I enjoy pursuing a healthy lifestyle and spending time with family. I enjoy learning about new topics or subjects that matter to my community, to my clients, or that peak my interest. I seek to relax in nature or by crafting.